Are You Making This Simple But Common Facebook Friend Requesting Sin?

by Scott Bradley on June 7, 2010

Facebook Sin

Each and every week I manage and sort through well over 100+ facebook friend requests at any given time. I don’t say this to impress you, just to merely state a fact.

Weekly Facebook Friend Requests

The sad part is… I ignore a lot of them, or add them to my “Random Never Pay Attention To Unless I am Incredibly Bored and Have Nothing Else To Do” list.

Facebook Random List

Even though this may seem somewhat “harsh,” I do this for one simple, but very important reason…

Reason: Many of these individuals sending me a friend request don’t put a personalized message in their request. They think that by merely sending me a request I will blindly accept it, and if I do accept it, they think that I will actually pay attention to everything they post.

Ha Ha Ha…No!

When I put them into my “ARandom” list, I rarely if ever pay attention to them, and the only reason I would remotely pay attention to them is if they pay attention to me.

If they do come out of the wood work by commenting on my status updates and posts, I do take notice and will add them to one of my lists that I pay more attention to throughout the week.

I simply don’t have time for people who aren’t willing to make the extra effort to write something in the friend request because they were “in a rush” or “didn’t have time.”

If you have made this mistake when sending friend requests you are not alone. Out of the 100+ requests I get each and every week I may only get 1 or 2 personal messages added to the plethora of friend requests I have to process.

So if you like following the herd, and are satisfied with the results you are getting, continue to make this sin. It doesn’t bother me!

If you are making this sin, and want to make a positive change for you and your business, I would highly recommend that you change this behavior IMMEDIATELY!

And in changing that behavior…

Be sure to also add this blog to your RSS reader, or subscribe by e-mail so you don’t miss out on my future posts as outlined below…that will help you tremendously

Future Post #1: What To Say In Your Personal Message When Sending A Facebook Friend Request

Future Post #2: The Exact Reasons Why You Should Put a Personalized Message in Each Facebook Friend Request You Send

I look forward to sharing this powerful information with you that will transform the way you leverage facebook as the powerful networking platform that it is.

The Bottom Line: If you aren’t putting a personal message in each friend request you send, you are leaving a ton of money on the table and missing out on so much opportunity.

{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

John Gies June 9, 2010 at 12:12 PM


When I saw David reference your blog and saw instructions on the arcane things behind Twitter I was excited.

Thanks for your posts and good luck


Scott Bradley June 9, 2010 at 12:50 PM

Hi John,

Thanks for your comment I appreciate it!


Meranda June 9, 2010 at 10:01 PM

Fantastic article. We should include some kind of personal message when adding friends on FB.


Scott Bradley June 10, 2010 at 7:50 AM

Thank you Meranda for your comment on the article! I appreciate you!


Yinka olaito June 10, 2010 at 4:46 AM

This piece makes a lot of senses. It shows the extra factor that makeds people excel. I sometimes commit this sin too , i guess i need repentance LOL


Scott Bradley June 10, 2010 at 7:51 AM

Thanks Yinka for your comment. No repentance needed! LOL just change how you use the tool and you should see an increase in your results!


Thomas Mangum June 10, 2010 at 8:04 AM

At least you took the time to say it Scott. I just aggressively ignore.

Certainly, if I don’t know someone, I used to take time occasionally to send a reply asking what caught their attention…only if their profile was interesting and maybe we had LOTS of connections in common.

Some would get back nicely and most never heard from.

If you can’t respond on something like that, then you’re shotgun-friending and NO THANK YOU!

Again, great post!


Scott Bradley June 10, 2010 at 8:15 AM

Thomas thank you so much for your comment!

When you say I just “aggressively ignore” what do you mean by this? Does this mean that you ignore the request as well?

That is a great way to filter your friend requests with what you did.

I agree with you about shotgun-friending.

I look forward to your reply!


Bruce Cagle August 17, 2010 at 9:07 PM

Thanks Scott, Amazing, 1 or 2 only leave a personal message. I always leave a message. And thanks to TSA I am leaving a thanks for connecting with me message as well.
Something for everyone to think about, go the extra mile. It pays by your own admission.


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